2 ways of being attractive to others
I will easily acknowledge that what I am about to say are at two ends of a spectrum. Which anything in the middle of that spectrum can be useful, but is also open to interpretation. Because of this, I am going to lay out both ends of the spectrum as the two options to understand and consider. Then know that anything between them could also be applicable, just maybe not as effective depending on the goal. Remember when reading this, that people will be attracted to what THEY find attractive. This is usually hard wired, and then re-enforced or altered as we get older. Most people don’t have much control over what they find attractive though. Bio/Psych evolution has been thoroughly studied, and it impacts us all the time.
Be who you want to be:
This is really just becoming/evolving/building yourself into whatever version of yourself that you want to be. A good goal would be to do this, so that you become the best version of yourself. Perfectly acceptable, and sometime the most optimum choice. However, you must understand that your pool of potential partners/GF-BF/husband-wife etc.. is going to be those people that find the type of person you have become attractive. If you are attracted to a specific type of person, and they don’t find the specific type of person you have become, then it won’t work.
Become a person, that the people you are attracted to, are attracted to in return:
This is becoming the best version of yourself that the kinds of people you find attractive, also find you attractive. This requires quite a bit of work, in that you must understand what the person you are looking to be with, wants in return. This might very well mean changing your behavior, habits, the lens at which you look at the world, and even goals.
